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#113180 - 03/31/14 10:35 PM Re: Facial Hair - SW Virginia? [Re: SeanaTG]
justkeepswimming Offline

Registered: 03/27/14
Posts: 5
Thanks for all the responses and information; sadly this does not help remedy my current situation at all. Seana was the only one who really addressed my concern, and unfortunately the PDF she provided has only two facilities listed for Virginia (neither of which seems to have anything to do with hair removal?). As far as attending a transgender support group, I refuse to attend a transgender support group - I want NO ONE to have ANY suspicion in my small town of who I actually am. I may anonymously reach out to them for referrals though. I'm so disappointed that there aren't more resources and knowledge out there about trustworthy hair removal practitioners, especially on this site.

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#113181 - 04/01/14 12:42 AM Re: Facial Hair - SW Virginia? [Re: justkeepswimming]
SeanaTG Offline
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Registered: 08/13/13
Posts: 988
Loc: The Great White North eh
The pdf wouldnt have electrologist referrals in it. The suggestion was that these were places if you contacted MAY know of someone competent in your area and who can give you a referral, one other TG have used before with success.Unfortunately it's the best I can do not being from or familiar with SW virginia.
That said, I think you are making a mistake not taking advantages of the resources that ARE out there like support groups. Believe me I do know what it is like to live your life in fear, transphobia is a pretty horrible thing, particularly in bible thumper regions.But do reach out to those resources that are in your area for transgender folks. They will know where to go.

That said I do have some additional suggestions. You mentioned you were "pre-everything" which I would assume means pre-hormone treatment. This is probably because you have felt you arent ready for such. You may want to consider though visiting an informed consent clinic anyway. Even if you dont start hormones right away they can start you on an anti-androgen ( Spironolactone or Cyperoatone(ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING UNLESS IT IS UNDER A DOCTORS PRESCRIPTION AND SUPERVISION)
) .This has the effect of lowering your testosterone levels which is what is currently stimulating NEW hair growth. Anti-androgens wont make you change body fat distribution or grow breasts or anything else likely to out you. but it will stop new hairs from forming so the situation is gets worse rather than better. Unfortunately it wont make the existing hairs go away.

The other option is to save up a bunch of cash and have a large amount of work done at once out of state.Sometimes the professionals will arrange to do a chunk of work in advance and get paid over time, several here have suggested they work this way) A 5 hour drive is a lot to go for a 1 hour appointment, but not as big a deal if you are going for a week and getting 30-40 hours of work done. There are some pro's here that work exactly this way ( Michael, James, sometimes even Josefa) .Heck I'd help you out (I do a lot of free work for transgender folks ) but I'm all the way up in Canada.

A few words of wisdom, from someone who has travelled your path: Transgender support groups generally GO OUT OF THEIR WAY to make things anonymous and safe, so you cant be outed in your town. Just about every transperson faces these fears (I know I did!).Unfortunately some continue to suffer because they cant get over their fears. Don't let fear rule over you. Going to support groups is one cases where there is nothing to fear but fear itself. You wont get outed. You will find out what resources are available to you. Take that first step, because if you continue to hide in the closet you will stay in there forever.

( From someone who hid in that closet for over 20 years, and wishes she hadn't)


#113182 - 04/01/14 01:00 AM Re: Facial Hair - SW Virginia? [Re: SeanaTG]
Brenton Offline
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Registered: 06/09/11
Posts: 721
Loc: SoCal
You could also call one of the tg-friendly electrologists listed and ask them directly if they have recommendations for people closer to you

#113184 - 04/01/14 09:06 PM Re: Facial Hair - SW Virginia? [Re: Brenton]
Michael Bono Offline

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Registered: 01/11/11
Posts: 3490
Loc: Santa Barbara, CA USA
Dear Swimmer,

Hairtellers often do fairly well referring others to either laser or electrolysis practitioners. … But, here’s a warning.

Sometimes the referral is based on having known a practitioner for a long time, or having a close friendship. Sometimes the recommendation is based on what the person says about himself or herself, directly or indirectly. Almost none of us zapperettes, here on this site, have actually been TREATED by the people we recommend. Think about that for a minute!

Still, these recommendations are valuable. However, don’t rely too much on any recommendation or, especially, a “testimonial” you might read on a practitioner’s website, or on Hairtell. Lots of testimonials are just plain FAKE! What will work for one patient might not be appropriate for you. Indeed, you are going to have to test and evaluate the practitioner yourself. Take time in your selection.

ALWAYS, over the years, the kids that get themselves into the biggest trouble are the TG patients! Remember: YOU are NOT a second-class citizen and therefore should never be treated “less than!” You should always expect the highest standards in all the procedures you will be requesting. My God, could I tell you stories about my beautiful TG clients … and family members too! (Anybody ever heard of Dr. Brown, Los Angeles?)

My earlier statement here was about being “desperate,” and in your case not wanting exposure. Believe me, I’m “in your camp” and support you 100% … just PLEASE take this slowly and have due diligence before committing large sums of time and money to something that might not work, or even be deleterious to your situation.

I used to recommend others because I assumed all offices were “spotless” and up-to date, and that, if they were in business for decades, were doing superior work. I have learned that this is not necessarily the case. At the moment, I’m only comfortable recommending TWO colleagues. Yep, that’s it!

Don’t let “small town” mentality get you down or think poorly of yourself. You have as much RIGHT to be YOU as any of us. I’m proud of you right now … and, you should be too. At some point you will realize this and then wonder why you worried about what other “idiots” might be thinking. Seriously, they don’t count! (Or as my Italian/New Yorker father would say, “Screw ‘em Michael!”)

#113185 - 04/02/14 12:36 AM Re: Facial Hair - SW Virginia? [Re: Michael Bono]
Gretchen0b Offline

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Registered: 04/01/12
Posts: 124
Loc: Colorado
I agree with Mike, you have to do your due diligence but After you do your due diligence you just have to go for it. If you walk into an electrologist's office and there is nothing but chaos, filth and an electrologist who does not want to wear gloves you run for your life, or you run for the beauty of your skin. There's enough information on this website to get you going in the right direction. Just remember sound and feel. If the electrologist is using HF and you hear sizzling bacon you got problems. Feel, go to your bathroom and grab a pair of tweezers then pull a hair out of your face. If you feel multiple sensations like what you experienced in your bathroom then get up and leave, because any good practitioner knows what traction is. There are a lot of electrologist out there who will do a good job, you just have to give them a chance.
Kill'em All and let your electrologist sort them out. \m/

#113201 - 04/03/14 12:23 PM Re: Facial Hair - SW Virginia? [Re: Gretchen0b]
justkeepswimming Offline

Registered: 03/27/14
Posts: 5
Thanks again - I will seek some referrals from the resources provided.

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