I'm 25 male and have hair on my back and shoulders. You can read this post to see what im going through:

http://www.hairtell.com/forum/ubbthreads.php/ubb/showflat/Number/34359/page/2/fpart/1

I just started dating the most incredible person in the world and I happen to be right after a laser treatment, so my back is fairly clear for now. However, within 3 weeks or so, the hair is going to start growing again. I am really really worried about this and scared that she will freak out, be bothered, or leave me because of it.

Is there anything i can do mid-treatment to minimize the amount of visible hair, like a little waxing? (and shaving is completely useless and will make it worse).

Should I just be completely open about my laser treatments and confident about it?? Does anyone have hands on experience with this???

I'd be open about it - tell her that you're having the treatments because you have so much hair that it bothers you. Why should she freak out about that? You're doing it (at least partly) for her sake, because you think it's gross to be so hairy.

Being open about these things only requires that you have that bit of nerve for the 5 minutes it takes to tell her about it. Trying to hide it is impossible, and you'll just give yourself a lot more worries.


Henrik

Yes, just being open about it should be fine. You can say it makes you uncomfortable, and you're doing it for both of you, because you like to look good for her!

I agree with posters above.

My other question would be: how does shaving make things worse? And aren't you shaving before your treatments?

I feel its easier to become emotionally intimate with a man who is a bit more open. You see, we women eventually find out who you are anyway.

You have an opportunity to open up about something that is a big issue for you. She has an opportunity to reveal to you who she is, by her reaction.

I meant it grows back too quickly and causes stuble, etc.... (nothing to do with the effectiveness of the laser treatments...)

You need to let the hairs grow and not interfere with the hair growth cycle while you are having laser done therefore do not wax.

I say, shave according to your laser protocol.

Think of your long term goal.

I don't think you should be "open" about it and just mention it out of the blue..as in having a talk about how it bothers you and how you are getting treatment. That is the nice speak of what you should do, but in reality, I wouldn't make it an issue. Portray confidence and that you don't really care either way if she doesn't find it particularly attractive. Even if she feels the stubble and makes mention of it, just be confident and be like well I'm getting laser treatments but crack a joke or something about it. Say you are hairy like animal, and manly or somethin. Be confident, that is the most important thing.

It sounds like you are lucky, and you can shave, so why not just do that until you determine if laser will eliminate your problem.

hi adam, just was wondering how dating was going??? what did you decide to do? im kinda in the same boat as you in that im 24 hairy male. i decide to steer clear of relationships as guess im scared of what they will say, i tend to stick with one night stands as its easier to hide. im not going to do this forever obviously just untill ive had enough treatments untill im happy with myself.

i would probably agree with chuck and not be too open about treatments, try and gauge what her opinion is about hairy men, as i find some girls just really dont like it at all, where as some girls just thinks its a sign of manliness.

just a tip for hairy people, i find by asking what celebreties a girl fancies can determine whether they like hairy people. so colin farrell-hair, or johnny depp-not and so on..... ha thats what i do anyway.

as a girl, i would add that there is also such thing as "don't mind it" in addition to "like" and "don't like". and most non-superficial girl friends of mine are probably in that category. if they like a guy, finding out about excessive hair won't change their mind about liking him. they might not tell their friends about it, but that doesn't mean they mind it. they just don't want to be judged. i find that if the girl is a decent person overall, these kinds of things don't matter much. so my point is I guess, go for and get to the point of her finding out your personality and get to like you first before you get to the point of revealing this and it won't matter.

btw, check out pictures of Katherine Heigl's fiance some time.
http://www.greysanatomyinsider.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/06/Katherine-Heigl.jpg