Hi. I am a waxing specialist and I am advising that you see an Esthetician that considers themself a specialist in waxing.
I can answer a few of your questions...
-A male brazilian wax should always include the back end. They should atleast ask. Please make sure they are experienced, esp w males!
-When waxing you should return regularly every 4-5weeks. This limits pain (it gets easier!) and also helps thin out the hair.
Visiting the same Esthetician regularly will in time help with your shyness.
-Going to see your Esthetician is much like seeing a nurse. This is what we do for a living. We see your "business" all day everyday. You need to feel comfortable. A good Esthetician should make you feel that way. Usually we are so focused on performing a clean service, that we concentrate on the outcome and don't think about what we are actually doing/looking at. Hope that makes sense.

brandon,
My first wax did not go back around the anus but I asked the waxer and she will do that next time. I believe it depends on the individual waxer and you should ask about it or request it before your appointment. As to going to someone you don't know for them to see "everything", I felt it was similar in mood to going for a pedicure or something. It was not erotic or embarrassing. I did offer to help move/hold things so she could focus on the wax and hair. The touch and feel is very clinical to me and not of a style that could cause any embarassing reactions if you know what I mean. Hearing other stories, I may have had less of a reaction than many customers though. My waxer started off the appointment by talking to me about any allergies, that kind of stuff which helped get the appointment off to an appropriate tone.

Ok thank you both so much!! And I will try to find an Esthetician.
Thank you both again I feel much more comfortable and confident about going.
I found this website that has Estheticians in my area. Next question....Do I just call and kind of ask about the male brazilian wax? And I take it that if I mention waxing around the anus area they're not going to freak out...??

Thanks again!!

brandon,
They should not freak out as they are already working right next to that area anyway and likely take care of that area for enough customers that it would not be a surprise.

Yes, just call and ask. If the specific location doesn't do Men's Brazilians, don't just hang up, ask if they know of a place that does. It could shorten the time it takes to get an appointment.

ohh ok that makes sense.

alritey ill try that

soo about how much does this cost anyways??

Anywhere from $25 to $80.