I know that this has started some controversy. But I did not mean for that to happen. I was not trying to suggest hair is a devastating problem, or comparable to cancer. I was just saying how devastating it is for ME, and probably other individuals in my situation or in worse situations. Yes, it can be taken care of, yes it’s ONLY hair. But when you are the ONLY person out of everyone you know who has more hair then a guy (and I’m not exaggerating) then YES it is devastating, and you just want to cover it up forever. My hair is fine but DARK and everywhere, so it has consumed me. And I would love to take on another job and help pay for this, but that would mean dropping out of school to do that. I really don’t want to resort to that just yet lol
I know people think its no big deal, but when hair is covering your feminine parts, you don’t feel like a woman. I feel as Alicia said “as an IT”. It hurts everyday to think people can see it, and are judging me or laughing behind my back. And yes, it’s not life threatening, but to what extent? It can cause severe emotional, mental distress, and can lead to serious problems such as suicide, depression, anxiety, or in my case thinking your not good enough for anybody.
It hurts when people say “It’s no big deal”, ya because they don’t live with it everyday, thinking of a way to rid it, putting themselves in debt trying to pay for it. So please forgive me for not downplaying my situation, because as it is not THE worse situation in the world. It is for me, because I am the one living with it.
Sorry if I sound bitter or harsh, it just really is something I’m sensitive about.
re desperate18, I look foreward to when you are posting back regarding your progress, and begin to feel that you are “reclaiming your life”. That is the most rewarding part of being an electrologist, seeing people become at ease with themselves, and begin to live their lives with new found confidence. It will be like getting to know a “new” you.
You didn’t stir anything up. There is no controversy about what people go through when they have too much hair. Sometimes, I feel like a psychologist as I try to offer hope and technical support to my depressed clients. As electrologists we are comforting and hugging people everyday to get them through this process. The best hugs come when a client “graduates”. My above postings were about how does one pay for hair removal services, not about the emotions and trauma clients experience when they have too much hair in all the wrong places. You are explaining something that electrologists already understand very well. A lot of us have lived through those emotions. I’m glad to have this discussion.Paying for hair removal is not easy. It’s not impossible either with a good plan.
Dfahey- I agree with you. I know it’s not easy, but it’s something I plan on doing, even if I go broke. My goal in life is to be healthy and happy. But I feel like the hair doesn’t allow me to be my fullest potential because it consumes me. I dream one day of having a husband and kids. I just don’t think anyone wants to be a hairy mom or wife. I wouldn’t feel comfortable living with a family that way, which is why I am determined now to rid it.
Also a question for anyone who knows…Should I purchase distilled witch hazel, is there any other form of it?
Just curious because I’m going to pick it up tomorrow before I start treatment.
Anyone who loves you, should love you for what kind of person you are within, but I can see how you want to feel good about yourself first and how this hair issue makes that harder to do.
As far as going broke with electrolysis goes, I look at it another way. If you spend all the money at once it would be a large amount, but when the treatments are spread out over a period of time then they are more manageable. I don’t think about the tens of thousands I’ve spent over the years on electrolysis or my transition related expenses either.
It’s only money and it was necessary to fix my problems.
Happiness is more important than money which of itself can’t buy happiness. It can only buy things.
Electrolysis is less expensive than a lifetime of temporary hair removal.
Once this is taken care of, and you move forward, the bump in confidence will be an extra bonus. I have been an honored guest at more than one wedding, because the brides said something like, “This day would never have happened without you. I just never would have said yes to a date if we had not gotten the hair taken care of.”
Wow that makes me feel so much better that people have the same issues as me.
Thanks Alicia, I know it’s expensive now, only thing is I’m a student so the limited funds I make all go to hair removal, and leaves me with pretty much nothing left =(
But it’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make. I’m glad you understand why I want to feel good about myself before letting anyone near me. It’s something that I would NOT be able to share with another person. No one else knows (except for you guys) but you guys don’t know me so it makes it easier =) lol
I wouldn’t be able to live my life if I don’t get rid of this problem.
James: I’m glad you’ve helped so many people, I’m sure they’re eternally grateful, and overjoyed that they don’t live with their hair anymore. I hope one day for that to be me too.
I think this question got lost in all the special mommy hugs for you. Distilled witch hazel would be fine. Double distilled witch hazel would be better.
It may be time to set up NGOs united nations of Electrology. We could call “Electrologist without borders”. Or “Electrologist in the world”. Or “Electrologist for mental sanity”. I want to be a member. What about you Mr. Gior? Are we doing the common front? (NO JOKE)
Yes, there are people who try to make you feel like you’re unacceptable in all kinds of rude ways. I learned to immediately end the interaction and to not give people like that 2nd chances to interact with me, but I know that that’s hard because you end up so isolated. But at least then those people learn that if they want to associate with/ get the money of people like you, they have to behave.
6 hours I don’t think anyone can take that much!! Longest we’ve ever done in one sitting on someone was like 3 - 3 1/2 hours. It’s very har physically and mentally on someone being that uncomfortable and tensed up. I would get a cheap motel do one 3 hour session that evening and then the next 3 hour session the next day, makes alot more sense.
When one has the right combination of equipment and skill, the worst part of long appointments is laying there for so long. That’s why I show my clients movies, documentaries, and let them bring in their DVD Box Sets to view while we work.
At my practice, it is almost the rule that beginning clients who have large areas to clear will do 3 to 4 hours, break for a meal, and do another 3 to 4 hours on the same day. This way, we get to First Clearance as soon as possible, and we maintain the clearance once we achieve it.