Temporary Hair Removal : This goes on in many homes everyday!
This piece is called, “My Hairy Wife” courtesy of the American Electrology Association, I believe.
Dee
I am amazed and disgusted at the actions of this woman’s husband - even putting his wife through this…and then posting it on the internet??? She should start removal - of the hair and him. Save this video to use in the divorce hearing. What a horrible insensitive person.
I am so sure that he will be kind and supportive while she is growing the hair out to get treatment - what an *ss. I am really angry about how he took so much joy in humiliating his wife in public. I wonder how attractive he is, seems like a real winner. That poor woman.
I can’t see that clip getting out of committee at the American Electrolysis Association. Trust me, they had nothing to do with it.
My impression is, these are “actors” making a very convincing point about what goes on behind closed doors in regard to the frustration of having to disguise unwanted hair on a daily basis. This is a re-enactment, or a peek if you will, at what life is like for hirsute women in their own homes. I can’t tell you how many women tell me that they wake up 45 minutes earlier than their husbands just to tweeze their chin and upper lips hairs for the day. Frequently, I hear from clients that their husbands and boyfriends tell them the hair doesn’t bother them, that they love them dearly, hair or no hair. I think men are less of a problem than other women, the Mean Girl types. I don’t think this was a “real” situation where the wife was surprised and humilated by her husband. It was very convincing, though!
I agree, it was staged. Why would she start shaving her legs while wax strips were attached to her face? And depilatory, for what? And showering with clothes on to get a tiny bit of depilatory out of her hair?
If you click on hubby’s name, he’s a photojournalist and videographer.
I agree, hair doesn’t bother husbands. It bothers sisters, mothers, daughters, aunts, female co-workers, other females in general…
One of my clients, a dental hygienist, told a patient she needed electrolysis. The patient called the dentist and complained. My client was fired. The dental patient did become my client, but neither knew I treated the other.
A good example of MEAN GIRLS in action. Too much hair in the wrong places does provoke emotion.
I agree that more women have the problem than men.I personally have heard female coworkers comment on my facial hair and make snide remarks to my face over this issue.I also work with men and have never felt the self conciousness that Ihave with women.I almost feel as if Iam in highschool again.Sad but true.
Little kids are very honest about what they see and will blurt out, “Grandma has a moustache!” or they will say to their classmates, “Mrs. Gujdjdjfksfkls has a beard, oooooooo gross!” I have many clients in both situations and they don’t want to live another day to hear another comment like this!
I guess there are two video’s that end differently. This one has the the American Electrology Association webiste connected to it at the very end, wwww.electrology.com Here it is:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=NXx62ehrZz8
I can see a cute little rappy thing coming forth next from our talented colleagues, related to hair removal. I like the freecreditreport.com radio and T.V. ads with the catchy little tune about 20 “something” kids with credit reports being so whacked that they have to resort to working in a fish restaurant or driving a banged up used car that doesn’t impress pretty women. That commercial sticks in my mind. Oh, it would be perfect to have an electrology version of creditreport.com ba-bee.
Dee
Staged or not - not needed. Women who know that they have a hair problem know already. It’s like stripping down a fat person and mocking them - somehow they wouldn’t realize that they are overweight otherwise?
It’s crappy regardless of origin or intention.
I know what it is like to be the guy in this type of situation since I have been the guy in relationships with women who had unwanted hair that they obsessed over and even tried to hide from me. (That’s right, instead of getting it removed by their loving loved one, they were getting up early to pluck, clip, and whatever, hoping I would not notice) What I don’t know is how to talk to women with this problem so that they are not offended, defensive, and take to heart that a solution exists, and that they should just do it already.
Can you help out with that?
I have to deal with the fact that even the women who call me for an appointment usually blow off 2 or more first appointments before they finally go through with even the consultation and sample treatment. It has gotten to the point where I never schedule a woman’s first appointment for “prime time” unless she has already paid in advance, or I am sliding her in during a break with another client.
So give us some direction. How would an ad that is both informative and effective work?
I personally thouht the video was hilarious.Probably because it reminded me of myself,stuck in a bathroom for ten odd years trying to figure out how to deal with this mess that appeared on my face and body and never knowing anything about electroysis until I found this sight and read all of this wonderful, very effective information.I can also see how this would offend some women but Iam sure they were trying to show the lives of many women and how clueless they are.Not because they are unaware, but for the simple reason that they are embarrased to let anyone find out about their problem.
Ihave never been able to clear all of the hair on my face by myself.Probably because of getting frustaed that I wasnt doing it right and the time consuming effort it takes,so I know people can see it, and no one has ever told me about electrolysis.They may have been embarassed for me or they probably didnt want me to become offended,but I would have been grateful for that information knowing there was a permanent way to get rid ofit.That would have answered all of my prayers.When I become offended is when people say unacceptable things and treat me as less than for a flaw that is out of my present control(until now).
I think this was done as a way to help start a dialogue, but this is a very sensitive subject and it would be hard to find a way to present it without making people feel uncomfortable. I have been in the room when those commercials come on that say, “Are you tired of tweezing, waxing and shaving away unwanted facial hair, only to have it grow back??? Then, you need to try this new _____ to get rid of the unsightly hair forever!” It always seems like everyone gets uncomfortable and either looks at the ground or they look at me to see if I am indeed jotting down the number so I can call right away and receive the bonus gift as well, a bag to put over my head for the four days I need to grow out the hair to get it removed…
I HATE facial hair and I have taken vengance against it and I am partnering with a professional hair warrior who is erradicating the measly little “unsightly” bums! I feel bad for other women with this problem, but I feel worse for the Mean Girls who have so many issues in the own perfect-looking lives that they have to ridicule embarrass or insult others. I pray that those Mean ones can find Jesus and His acceptance so they can become compassionate and I pray that the other women fighting the battle against their hair will find a kind electrologist to help them through their hair removal journey.
My electrolysis diary is under “I’m dreaming of a hair-free Christmas.”
Oy.
Darbie has too much hair:
Staged or not - i actually knew a guy who was insensitive like husband from a video. It was my dad. He would mock my mom so bad that she would run off and cry, even though, otherwise, their marriage was good. So there are husbands like that one, in reality.
I too have heard men say horrible things to their girlfriends and spouses in this vein - which is why it angered me so.
Attacking someone is not the way to sell someone anything. You are basically using fear and ridicule to bludgeon them into doing what you want them to do. That tactic never works unless you are using it is a political fear mongering type of ad/spot. In all other cases you are driving the person you are seeking to help further underground and away from you, away from help.
Again - look at successful weight loss ads, nutrisystem, Jenny Craig, etc… there is an emphasis on the positive aspects. One isn’t “hunting” the subject with a camera. That style of filming is used by the lowest level of people trying to be in the “media”. In other words - amateur hour. And, yes, there is a lot of that on youtube. But to be used as an ad (of sorts)…um, no.
Simply put - if you put someone on the defensive - there is no dialogue. And if that attack is used to humiliate…what is the point? Can you see someone trying to sell viagara to a guy who was underperforming by bursting in on him in a private moment, pointing and mocking? Then bringing in friends to see his lack of…virility? No, you can’t.
Facial hair on a woman attacks the idea of femininity, it needs to be handled with respect. Treating someone like a freak show serves no purpose.It just shows a lack of compassion.
However one broaches this subject, compassion is key, and privacy is key.
This guy made a crap video, period. It achieves the opposite of what he purportedly aimed for. He should take a few classes in marketing.
I think (I hate to say this) that it requires a different approach for each woman. My boyfriend, now husband somehow does not see my fab goatee - I thought he was just politely ignoring it, but when I gave him an article to read on PCOS symptoms - he said “You don’t have this…” HA! Bless him.
Just be tactful and try to ask when they are in a good frame of mind. Obviously they have it going on if you are with them in the first place. Blunt is not the way to go. I am surprised that with all your experience you have problems addressing women on this - you are like the superhero of the anti-hair forces! Just assuring them that you re on their side is a big step, and picking your moment so that it is in no way seen as a critical attack. That should work. I can talk to other women about it as they can see that I have the same issue (although I hate it when someone starts to get a little stache and is too dramatic about it - like complaining of a bum knee while I am in a wheelchair…)
As someone who has tried to start treatment before but has been sidetracked by life, work…it is hard to grow out the hair and get thru the first couple of ugly months without facing severe criticism or ridicule at work etc…It shouldn’t be so, legally and otherwise…but it is. As everyone said, it is mostly other women that are the worst. Who can put their job or advancement in peril, especially when the job pays for treatment?
I guess just regard it in the same light as treatment for a substance abuse problem, or therapy for mental health issues - there will be some backsliding until they have been reassured and gain soome confidence in the process.
Just my take on it.
Your GF’s were fools to not confide and seek help from you! 
But I think they just were afraid to be seen as flawed by their man and didn’t want to risk rejection.
I hope you aren’t offended, but these are terrible ad spots.As the target audience, I would change the channel. I do have some background in this area, have worked in marketing for media, and this is not well thought out at all. You are using fear and humiliation to sell the product. Unless it’s home security system or politics - that is a huge mistake. Offending the audience is mistake #2. A car or credit report is an inanimate thing; a woman’s visage is not. Broad comedy or attack is the wrong way to approach this.
Electrology deserves better.
My question was more of the sort of how does one talk to someone who is not already in my office on a professional visit.
When I give someone my card just for contact information, some women cover up their upper lips and get defensive, when I was only saying, here is my contact info. Let me know if you want to borrow that book we were discussing.
I think all electrologists get that reaction from time to time. I even get it from family members. And I just want to say, “Uh, hello…I wasn’t looking at you upper lip until you covered it with your hand.”
There are very few people that I had a personal relationship with before a business relationship. I’ve even lost clients after the consultation when they discovered we went to high school together. But, I’ve developed long lasting relationships with clients that I still see socially, long after the business relationship ended.
I think the best thing to do would be to advertise, James, and encourage discounts for clients if they refer someone. I have felt a strange freedom to discuss my electolysis with some close friends, and they are intrigued. I think if there was a place nearby I would have a few referrals.
The fact that you are a MAN, wheather straight or gay, makes us feel like we should look attractive to you. And, when you give us a business card it is telling us, “You have so much facial hair I think you need to come see me so I can professionally remove them.” or, “You look so awful that you need the kind of help that only comes from a professional, and EVERYONE can see it!”
Maybe you should have some business cards made up that say your info without the business stuff. I have my electrologist’s card in my purse and I am in fear of dropping it in public to have someone read it as they hand it back to me, laughing and pointing and telling everyone “Look at Sasquatch! It’s the bearded lady!” Now, my rational side knows that won’t happen, but the part of me that has been hurt (most often by MEAN GIRLS, not NICE BOYS) has no sense of security until this hair is gone.
So, find a tasteful, discreet way to let us all know what you do for a living. If I sold penis enlargement pills, you probably wouldn’t want my card or you might feel a little inadequate if I handed you my business info. Just a thought…