I’m so embarrassed when I go to my electrologist. I fear that she’ll laugh at me behind my back and tell everyone how hairy I am. I’m having hair removed from my jaw line, chin, stomach, and chest. I don’t know how hairy her other clients are but I just feel like I’m the worst. Does anyone else feel this way?
While most electrologists are female. amd I am male, I have been around the USA going to seminars and meetings. I can tell you that the majority of electrolysis practitioners are not the mean girls who laugh at people who have hair problems. In fact, I can tell you that the overwhelming majority of electrolysis practitioners are like The HairClub President, they are also clients of the industry. Since most of them had, or still have a hair problem, they certainly don’t cast ridicule, secret, or otherwise, on their clients.
Relax.
I have never ever heard an electrologist laugh about a client’s hair problem. Just the opposite. Some clients are hurting so much I’ve cried with them.
Many electrologists were/are clients themselves. If your electrologist is not the most empathetic person in your life regarding your unwanted hair, then she’s in the wrong business.
No need to be embarrassed, like the others have said…most have seen worse or had/have hair problems themselves. I on the other hand, am embarrassed about the state of my skin when I turn up for an appointment without makeup!
It’s something you’ll have to work through in your own mind, logically. I remember having similar feelings when I had electrolysis.
Hi Cinnamon:
There are loads of women who get electrolysis,
and most of them are too embarrassed to talk about it
since they feel they are all alone or the worst case ever.
But you are not alone and are probably far from the
worst case ever.
If anyone is going to sympathize with your dilemma and
your feelings it is the electrologist. They would never
laugh at you behind your back, since if they were like
that then eventually it would catch up with them as their
clients would sense they were being insincere.
Have a good talk with your electrologist next time and
express your feelings about what you said here.
Get to know her a bit better and you will find that she
will be understanding and want to help you get rid of
your hair problem for you as badly as you do.
You have given me pause, and made me think about something.
I had a female client who thought she had the worst case ever. She had gone for LASER, got more hair stimulated, and then came to me, thinking it would take weeks, or months to get any visual progress. I cleared her out in our first appointment and spent a half hour after the appointment holding her as she cried into my chest saying things like, “Is that all I needed to do all those years ago? I could have been done with this already!”
When she regained her composure, I told her that she needed only to come back once every 6 weeks to get everything done, or she could come more regularly to go directly into a maintenance schedule that would make it look like she never grew any more hair. She thanked me and I have not seen or heard of her since.
Do you think she is dieing of embarassment for “forcing me to deal with a blubbering cry baby for half an hour?” Do you think that is what she is thinking?
I mean, let’s be real, she is not the first, nor do I think she will be the last client to cry on my shoulder. I keep a large supply of hugs for my clients, just in case they need one.
I can assure you that you are not the first, nor the last, to feel embarrassed by the hair that God has seen fit to “bless” them with. How do I know? Because I am married to a wonderful woman who thinks SHE has all the reasons to be embarrassed… and I married her SEVENTEEN years ago, have not had a problem with her hair, and only recently decided to help her get over her hang-up with hair by doing it myself.
Rest assured, you are normal in your fears, and in being normal, are probably putting more emphasis on what exists than anyone else in the world is. There is probably someone in your life right now that finds you extremely attractive in spite of that which you think is not so attractive. You are ONLY THE WORST client in your own mind, period.
So lift your chin in pride, knowing that you are among a few who rise above the embarrassment and seek the help which will allow you to reach a level of hairlessness that will allow you to be at peace. Congratulations, you are bold AND beautiful!!!
My sister went for laser at a clinic in Dallas, after being horrified by her hair since we were children. She wouldn’t talk to anyone about it. She finally told me she’d been going after 2 sessions when she was so excited, she couldn’t stand no one knowing. 
She said the consultation & getting on the table was terrible, but the tech was super nice & told her they see it all the time. It’s really not a big deal to them, because so many of us go see them, that what seems freakish & embarrassing to us is normal. She said they even got her giggling after a while, which is impressive considering she came in crying.
Believe me, you are not alone. I’ve surpassed my sister in growth now, due to 10 yrs of untreated PCOS.I could grow a goatee & sideburns to rival any man’s, if I ever stopped removing it. It’s almost that bad on my chest and back, too. My husband and I have the same amount of stomach hair, and to keep my legs smooth to touch, I’d have to shave twice a day. I’m so proud of you for having the guts to go. I’m still trying to get myself in, and it scares the crap out of me.
Make sure you let us know how it goes. I just found this place & we all need some courage when we’re just starting out.