Hey Sabrina,
Just a few things that might help put it in perspective. My electrologist, and actually every one Iāve gone to, hasnāt disinfected the area on starting. After finishing, they will apply this and that, but not always upon starting. If that is something that you really feel needs to be discussed and followed up on. Bring a small spray bottle, or some alcohol wipes and do it in the office before she starts. Sheāll probably accommodate you and want you to be comfortable.
With the innuendo talk, really step back and look at the whole situation. Has it had to do with the way you came across? Are you looking into her words more than you should? Make sure youāre not reacting due to inner feelings that you may be dealing with. And of course, ask yourself if she just isnāt into having you as a client. Who knows, she may be very religious and have beliefs that come to the surface every now and then. She may have had bad experiences. Are you letting the conversation subject wander into areas that are bringing about this reaction?Is she just saying things out of the blue? You have to spend a lot of time with her, so if itās not going to work, call it as you see fit. To be honest, you donāt come across too happy in your post.
The phone thing is tricky. Most electrologists work on their own. They donāt have a secretary. They do have answering machines, but an answering machine canāt reschedule a client calling in on the fly. Sometimes clients call, and they need to be spoken to. And, not all clients are going to call in the window of time between appointments, and that time may be already used to phone out returns and reminders. My electrologist will take calls every now and then. I see this as a necessary thing for her to run her business and to keep her regulars. People will only play phone tag for so long before they start considering other options, other electrologists. I would urge you to allow her some space on this issue.
On the last point, I just donāt know about that. Weāve heard this here before, the olā pluck and shuck. I say, just from my experience and knowledge, that only when the hair has a lightened pigment/skinny base, can you tell if itās dormant, But that isnāt that often (?). Yes with longer growth, no on hair thatās been shaved in the last week. I canāt really answer that as good as Iād like. I donāt think itās possible to see below the surface to that extent. What she may be doing is clearing, so she can know whatās new and whatās not. This type of clearing will extend out the time it takes to clear the area, but it may be what she considers a more directed approach. You can eliminate this by shaving three days prior. All hairs within her grasp will be active in some form, and she should zap each and every one of these -preventing over-treatment due to high hair density being the only exception. You have two pro opinions on this posted above, Dee and Arlene, so you need to sense which type of approach is going to work best for you.
Hopefully this helped a bit, but whatever you do, for the best for both of you, discuss it in a non-accusatory way with her. Make sure you listen to her explain herself and remember what she says so second opinions are more accurate. Make sure not to appear doubting her skills, and give yourself a good out, you donāt want her to pass words along to others that may make it difficult to get going with another. The electrology community in a town caan be tight knit.
In any case, good luck, let us know how it goes.
Mantaray
That and some laser.